the “s” word
Warning: not about breastfeeding or nutrition, but instead about sex…
A friend, who shall remain nameless, expounded this theory today. It is her take of why most mums with young kids are having too much sex, while most dads of young kids aren’t having enough. She feels it’s the age-old story of using sex for power. “I’m worn out,” she said, “I’m exhausted and no one in my house is doing what I ask, and I’m not getting what I need from my husband, so I’m not giving him what he needs, well, probably what we need. It’s not something I do consciously but I’d probably be into sex 24-hours-a-day if I felt like he was listening to me, or understood how I feel.” A caveat – she was having a terrible morning that started at 5:30 am and her marriage is quite possibly one of the strongest I know – but I got what she meant.
Okay other mothers? What’s your take on this, who’s getting it (or not!) at your house?
May 4th, 2007 at 3:42 pm
OK, first off, I’m not a mother so what the heck do I know? But I had to share the title of a book I just read that had some really interesting ideas about this very question: “Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Domestic and the Erotic” by Esther Perel. Actually, the book covers a lot of other topics as well, but she has some wonderful ideas for couples who are experiencing kid-related exhaustion and/or dry spells. They even have it at the library.