I’m a big fan of parenting books, I figure I can use all the help I can get, but last night I realized that a good solid 12 hours a day spent parenting should be followed up with chocolate and a glass of wine (and cleaning the kitchen, and sorting laundry and packing diaper bags to you can start the morning running) but spending all evening reading about parenting as well as all day doing it is adding insult to injury – which is in NO way to imply parenting is an injury. . .
Obviously I need a happy medium which is what? Only some nights spent reading parenting books, or being more selective in my reading? I picked up two books from the library the other day. The first, Sippy Cups are not for Chardonnay by Stefanie Wilder-Taylor is kind of like Chick Lit parenting (maybe Mummy Lit/Parenting Lit?) light & fluffy but without enough info or helpful advice to be worth reading. The second, Mother Styles, Using Personality Type to Discover Your Parenting Strengths by Janet P. Penley (with Diane Eble) seemed more promising. Her premise is that there’s no one “right” way to parent and we have to accept our strengths and weaknesses and work around them rather than try and be perfect. So far, so good. But then you had to spend about three dense chapters figuring out your Myers Briggs personality type and maybe your partners’ too (I didn’t get that far) and how you related to each other and your children and OMG I didn’t have the energy, time or inclination. Admittedly I’m a bad sleeper and I have a three-year-old and a one-year-old so maybe someone more rested than I would have jumped at the chance but it’s not that I’m not willing to put work into my parenting, but not that kind of work.
I think obviously I need to be more selective, so I’m open to suggestions. Use the comments section to let me know what books you found helped with with parenting – which could be everything from sleep issues to discipline.
And at least I did take away the thought that none of us is a perfect parent or even can be a perfect parent and we’ll all parent differently according to our natures.